Posts Tagged ‘respect’

Self-Obsession

Friday, July 5th, 2019

What is the difference between these two images?

Not a lot as it turns out. The walk to my daughter’s school in the early morning in London, increasingly resembles a Ho Chi Minh road crossing.

The dutiful lycra-clad US expat mothers in their Mercedes 4×4 desperately barge their way across oncoming traffic. Streams of city bicyclists cross lights with impunity and shout profanities at those who question their behaviour. The Just Eat “L-plate” scooters pull right without the slightest glint in the mirror or the consequences for their own and others’ safety. Bus drivers tiptoe around knowing the full force of their company, and the law will strike them, should they not be fully concentrating. The headphone-adoring Filipino nannies let their charges hurtle along pavements
on scooters unattended without regard to the danger that lies ahead or for the less able walking in the opposite direction. Black Cab drivers curse Uber drivers desperately scanning their Waze maps. Delivery lorries scream at traffic wardens. No one but no one has patience anymore.

Yet these very same people will spend hours wasting away their lives on trivial matters (posting, reading and downloading inanities on social media or on a multitude of apps). In the “attention economy”, the self-obsession is omnipresent.

Celebrity Confusion

Monday, May 21st, 2018

If you are a success, why wouldn’t you act like a success at a high profile occasion? Looking at countless celebrity male guests at the Royal Wedding (George Clooney, James Haskell and endless others), where your “dress” is a very clear mark of respect to your hosts, there wasn’t much respect on display to the Prince of Wales and Ms Markle’s mother. Why would you let down your spouse or partner, who has gone to a huge effort to earn respect? Which is it, “I conform to no one” (ego), “I am not familiar with local customs” (ignorant) or “the airline lost my bags” (unbelievable). If “manners maketh man”, many of us watching are in a state of confusion about some male celebrities’ beliefs that inform their behaviour, or perhaps, more likely we saw the less-appealing real man behind the PR-tinted lens.

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