If you insist on drowning me with details of you or your family’s “past”, it is reasonably accepted that it is your version of events (biases).

When you construct those events to embellish the story, make claims for unsubstantiated credit or association with results, relationships or tell untruths with the intent to harm others or gain an advantage, financial or non-financial, you are in unethical territory. You are cheating yourself.

The mere act of doing that and keeping up pretences is far more tiring than being honest with yourself and others.