Posts Tagged ‘reciprocity’

Asking For Help

Tuesday, March 19th, 2019

If your volition is simply to get acquainted or catch up with someone, when your real intent is to elicit their help to improve your condition (find a job, raise money, obtain an introduction), you better change your mindset. Listen with obvious interest. Pose brief, intelligent questions that invite the other party to reveal themselves. Spot opportunities for reciprocal benefit. Be clear and precise about the help you seek. Agree time and date for follow up. Be memorable and someone they’d be keen to meet again.

Sounds simple? Most people don’t do this well and in return, receive little or no commitment from most of those individuals they ask.

What Is In It For Them

Monday, March 4th, 2019

How accurate do you find fellow investors, clients, business partners and so forth in offering attractive opportunities (risk and reward) for your business growth? My presumption here is that they are genuine in seeking your serious commitment and offering meaningful reciprocal value.

If your response is “moderate” or “low”, it might just be that you have done a poor job at continually educating them about how your business works, and what is immediately useful and relevant, right now.

Not that they are “cheap”, or in someway, damaged, which I find a lot of people conclude wrongly.

Reciprocal Promises

Wednesday, February 13th, 2019

“What was in it for you?” The reciprocal promise (future reward, referral, advice and so on) most people seeking “free help” in for-profit businesses rarely fulfil (no commitment, no urgency, no need), and those offering it, rarely hold them to account on. Sound painfully familiar?

Entrepreneur Blindspots

Sunday, October 28th, 2018

Who get’s my time and interest? Two exploratory conversations with contrasting entrepreneurs with high-growth businesses this week. 

Entrepreneur A: “Let me show you my powerpoint presentation.” Five minutes later in response to what are you seeking to accomplish and where might I be immediately helpful, “I am just looking for money, I don’t need anything else.”

Entrepreneur B: “Let me tell you where I am at with my business, where I’d ideally like to be in future and what I am needing to change including raising new money.” After ten minutes of discourse and accepted vulnerability, “I’d be interested in your advice for me.”

As investors we want confident, not humble entrepreneurs. We want entrepreneurs with high levels of self-worth and a willingness to be vulnerable. To voluntarily admit weakness and display smart judgement.

We don’t want defensive entrepreneurs or those, who seek to excessively control our view into their business. Entrepreneurs don’t have to be transparent, translucent will do fine. When your use of powerful language, social skills, and intellect is obscured from us, little wonder investors move on.  

Here is my observation: have you adapted your behaviour to the life you now lead (entrepreneur), or insist on behaving as you learned to do in a former life as a former Citi banker, BCG consultant or CEO of a global company? 85% of the first-time entrepreneurs I meet persist in behaving as they have in their prior life with one obvious exception. Money. They happily claim poverty “I am not in the position I was….” at the mere mention of paying for advice. When the reality is they remain in the top 2% of the nation’s wealthiest people.  It is simply not credible.